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Thursday, September 29, 2011

Three Things .

Teach those coming behind you these;
Three things……………………
 
 

Three things in life that,
once gone, never come back...

1. Time
  2. Words
           3. Opportunity


Three things in life that can destroy a person...

  1. Anger 
2. Pride
             3.Unforgiveness

Three things in life that you should never lose...

1. Hope
2. Peace
   3. Honesty

Three things in life that are most valuable...

1. Love
                     2. Family & Friends
     3.Kindness

Three things in life that are never certain...

1. Fortune
2. Success
3. Dreams

Three things that make a person...

       1. Commitment
2. Sincerity
    3. Hard work
                            
                                 These groups of three things are truly always constant
 

Thursday, September 22, 2011

DEATH OF COMMON SENSE

Vicki Nelson King, a friend of mine through Facebook, residing in Omaha, Nebraska posted this on her wall: 

'Today we mourn the passing of a beloved old friend, Common Sense, who has been with us for many years. No one knows for sure how old he was, since his birth records were long ago lost in bureaucratic red tape. 

He will be remembered as having cultivated such valuable lessons as:-Knowing when to come in out of the rain; - Why the early bird gets the worm;- Life isn't always fair; - And maybe it was my fault. 
Common Sense lived by simple, sound financial policies, don't spend more than you can earn and adults, not children, are in charge.
His health began to deteriorate rapidly when well-intentioned but overbearing regulations were set in place. Reports of a 6-year-old boy charged with sexual harassment for kissing a classmate; teens suspended from school for using mouthwash after lunch; and a teacher fired for reprimanding an unruly student, only worsened his condition. 
Common Sense lost ground when parents attacked teachers for doing the job that they themselves had failed to do in disciplining their unruly children. It declined even further when schools were required to get parental consent to administer sun lotion or an aspirin to a student; but could not inform parents when a student became pregnant and wanted to have an abortion.
Common Sense lost the will to live as the churches became businesses; and criminals received better treatment than their victims. Common Sense took a beating when you couldn't defend yourself from a burglar in your own home and the burglar could sue you for assault. 
Common Sense finally gave up the will to live, after a woman failed to realize that a steaming cup of coffee was hot. She spilled a little in her lap, and was promptly awarded a huge settlement. 
Common Sense was preceded in death, by his parents, Truth and Trust, by his wife Discretion, his daughter Responsibility, and his son, Reason.
He is survived by his 4 stepbrothers; I Know My Rights,I Want It Now,Someone Else Is To Blame,I'm A Victim.Not many attended his funeral because so few realized he was gone.'
AFTERS: 
My comment to the post was ' common sense, though dead is living still in our hearts'. I found the whole piece funny at first bur i could not help thinking around it.
Common sense is really not as common as it sounds. It has since become lost to a lot of individuals for a long time and they hide under the fad ' it's hot to do this'; when they do silly things. A lot of misdemeanours by adults are bad examples to children whom they are trying to raise.
With this computer and Internet generation, friends and family are mostly not visited physically, but believe me, when I tell you that you will always need them for psychological support and adjustment. it will be very difficult at those times when they are needed, if the bond is not well established. Common sense tells you that it's the right thing to do, but you will rather Tweet them, blackberry Message them, or send birthday greetings on Facebook, first thing in the morning.
Worthwhile relationships inspire happiness and that is the ultimate goal of every human being; to be happy. Its common sense to disengage from or avoid relationships that you don't enjoy. You don't have to search for or create excuses to hang on to a dead relationship. Pride comes before a downfall, they say; it is not wise to be proud to use common laws of existence for survival just because they are common. 
Common sense is used as a  problem solving strategy or avoidance strategy, just as the case may require.
For instance, living within your means and not out-spending your income is only common sense that has worked for years, but the credit card system came and dealt a mighty blow on it. I have never seen any system that accelerate bankruptcy as this credit card system.
Common sense may seem common but it has worked from the time of Adam to date. It has proved reliable and simple to apply. 
It is advised that people use it more commonly.

Wednesday, September 21, 2011

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Monday, September 19, 2011

RAPE OF THE INNOCENT

BACKGROUND
I read an article on  Linda Ikeji's blog,about the pathetic story of a young domestic servant, and it got me thinking. The story was earlier featured in Vanguard Newspaper in Nigeria but i missed reading it there.The girl i saw in the photo is a nine years old, named Favour. There were conspicuous marks of canes all over her body. Injuries inflicted on an obviously hungry Favour, by her madam, one Alhaja Amina Ukegbu also include blood-shot eyes for eating gala without permission .

The kind of beating and assault meted out to young Favour can't not be administered on any of Alhaja's children while she still lives, i believe.

Having a house help is like adopting a child without so much of legality attached. Like the fostering system from the old times, where women in their child bearing ages especially take up children of other relations to live with them. They bring them up like their own and in return those adoptees help run errands for whom ever adopted them. There have been stories of many who don't even know their biological mothers as their mother, because there was no reason to regret living with whoever it was they were living with.

This Alhaja Amina was so inhuman to favour to the extent that she could not provide proper shelter for her and this exposed her to being raped over and over by two adults Aboy and Japan, in the neighbourhood. According to the girl, they raped on a daily basis.

 My Take:
1. Favour is a victim of a broken home. She has three other siblings and if care is not taken, they could become victims too, of rape or some other social vices.

2. Favour is a victim of child abuse in the sense that she is being asked to earn her own living by working for Alhaja even before she could take decisions by herself. In the course of her work, her left finger has been cut off, and she has burns on her hands.

3.She as a child has not been given any protection whatsoever, thereby exposing her to child molesters. She slept on the balcony every night.

4. she has suffered neglect from her aunt Chioma who gave her out to Alhaja to engage in child labour, because she does not visit her frequently. apart from this, she was not observant enough to see if there were physical or psychological changes in the girl whenever she  eventually visit. in addition, neglect from Alhaja who felt comfortable travelling out of the country, leaving a nine year old alone to her own whim and caprice. Notable and fairly commendable was the fact that it was Favours father who noticed the cane scars and raised alarm

5. she was constantly bullied by her two rapists with a threat to deal with her if she told anyone. not only was she threatened by those men but also by Alhaja who was supposed to be her guardian. she lied constantly to cover up the misdemeanour of Alhaja and her rapists.

6.She was never enrolled in any school. In this day and age it is very callous for anybody particularly in the city to keep any child from education.

Thankfully, a Non Governmental Organisation, Rhode Haven has since taken the case up. I hope the psychological and physical wounds Favour has being inflicted with heal fast, because she went through a very traumatic and dehumanising experience.
It is indeed a rape of the poor girl both physically and psychologically.