AN ERA OF SELF HELP EVOLVING.

PM News, a nigerian newspaper , reported that Seun Ogunbanwo is a graduate of Business Administration and recently finished his NYSC. He was attacked with a machete, his penis cut off, and beaten up mercilessly by an angry father called Dennis Akpati, after catching him having sex with his 20year old daughter inside his flat at No 52, Tijani Alabi Street, Ijegun, on the outskirts of Lagos.

He was handed over to the police who took him to the hospital for treatment and later charged with having an unlawful carnal knowledge of a 20-year old lady before the Ejigbo Magistrates’ Court, Lagos.

The accused was brought to court by the police to face the charges but when the presiding magistrate, Mrs. M. B. Folami, saw the pitiable state of the accused, she ordered the police to arrest the father of the victim (Akpati) and others involved in the battering of the accused and charge them to court for assault.

She explained that under the law, the accused is presumed innocent until found guilty, adding that nobody should be allowed to take the laws in his hands.

Ogunbanwo was alleged to have sneaked into Akpati’s home when the victim was alone and forcefully had sex with her. The father allegedly caught him on top of his protesting daughter.

The girl, it was gathered, was crying and attempting to free herself from him when her father came in. The father was so angry that he reportedly took a machete and cut Ogunbanwo all over his body, including his penis.

Speaking with P.M.NEWS on his way to the hospital with his police escort, the accused said the girl was his friend and that they lived in the same area.

He said that it was her father who macheted him when he met him in his house with his daughter. He said others later joined him in attacking him.
He did not deny that he slept with the girl.

He was charged with housebreaking and rape, offenses punishable under Section 411 and 358 of the Criminal Code, Cap. 17, Vol. 2, Laws of Lagos State of Nigeria, 2003.
He pleaded not guilty to the charges and the court granted him bail in the sum of N100, 000 with two sureties in like sum. The matter has been adjourned till 18 January, 2012.

Afters:

A lot of people are beginning to show in their actions that they do not have any faith in the law enforcement agents. These agents delay justice to be done to criminals and eventually justice is denied to the victims. Where there is law and it is upheld, jungle justice as displayed in the writeup above will never happen. If caution is continued to be thrown into the wind by the law enforcement agents, a new era of self help by the victims and their relations may be evolving.

GIRL HACKED TO DEATH BY BOYFRIEND

SAD NEWS!

The story running all over the cyberspace today a Sunday, in Nigeria is about a very beautiful girl killed prematurely by her boyfriend now at large. The man in question is obviously very animalistic and inhuman.

What kind of emotion can lead a man to take the life of a loved one; i believe it not just jealousy but probably he was possessed by the devil himself. Its unfathomable.

Individuals here on earth meet and fall in and out of love .Therfore, it is no sin to end a relationship that is not working. Many young girls go through domestic violence without knowing what to do. She could have being experiencing bullying in several way from her man and believing that he would change. She would have kept it a secret as expected of sufferers. If she had been a little courageous, disaster may have been averted.

On this particular situation, there seem to be no tenable reason for now. Many stories are flying around and one that seem common to many of them is that the girl went to pool alone. Obviously this girl is not supposed to have a life outside that which includes her boyfriend 24/7.

Details of the names of the boyfriend has not been released yet but the gruesome murder took place somewhere in Lekki, Lagos.

Below is the picture of the girl-model while full of life and another showing her in death, in a pool of her own blood.

(Picture culled from: http://enigerianews.blogspot.com/2011/12/young-girl-butchered-by-boyfriend-in.html)

 

Its advisable that the signs of violence in men of any age in any relationship should not be ignored by their partners or played down because they often end in disaster. Battery and vilification of their spouses are regular strategies used to disguise their inadequacies.

Such was the story of another victim called Titi Arowolo, killed by her husband on his 30th birthday. (Read  story from: http://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-703344.0.html )

                                            TITI AROWOLO AND HUSBAND AKOLADE

(Picture above culled from: http://lindaikeji.blogspot.com/2011/06/nigerian-man-stabs-wife-to-death-then.html)

LAFFS WITH TOPSIE- WISDOM BEHIND BARS

An old farmer wrote to his son Wisdom in prison.

"This year I won't be able to plant potatoes because I can't dig the field. If you were here you would help me. 

The son wrote back, "Dad, don't think of digging the field because that's where I buried the money I stole."

Police read the letter and the very next day the whole field was dug by police looking for the money but nothing was found. 

Later, the son wrote again... "Now plant your potatoes, Dad; it's the best I could do from here."
 

That year,the old man had the best harvest ever.
 

Thanks to his son,Wisdom's wisdom while in prison.

Afters:

Your brains can't be caged, use it at every opportunity.

Three Things .

Teach those coming behind you these;

Three things……………………

 

 

Three things in life that,

once gone, never come back...

1. Time
  2. Words
           3. Opportunity

Three things in life that can destroy a person...

  1. Anger 

2. Pride
             3.Unforgiveness

Three things in life that you should never lose...

1. Hope
2. Peace
   3. Honesty

Three things in life that are most valuable...

1. Love
                     2. Family & Friends
     3.Kindness

Three things in life that are never certain...

1. Fortune
2. Success
3. Dreams

Three things that make a person...

       1. Commitment
2. Sincerity
    3. Hard work

                            
                                 These groups of three things are truly always constant
 

DEATH OF COMMON SENSE

Vicki Nelson King, a friend of mine through Facebook, residing in Omaha, Nebraska posted this on her wall: 

'Today we mourn the passing of a beloved old friend, Common Sense, who has been with us for many years. No one knows for sure how old he was, since his birth records were long ago lost in bureaucratic red tape. 

He will be remembered as having cultivated such valuable lessons as:-Knowing when to come in out of the rain; - Why the early bird gets the worm;- Life isn't always fair; - And maybe it was my fault. 

Common Sense lived by simple, sound financial policies, don't spend more than you can earn and adults, not children, are in charge.

His health began to deteriorate rapidly when well-intentioned but overbearing regulations were set in place. Reports of a 6-year-old boy charged with sexual harassment for kissing a classmate; teens suspended from school for using mouthwash after lunch; and a teacher fired for reprimanding an unruly student, only worsened his condition. 

Common Sense lost ground when parents attacked teachers for doing the job that they themselves had failed to do in disciplining their unruly children. It declined even further when schools were required to get parental consent to administer sun lotion or an aspirin to a student; but could not inform parents when a student became pregnant and wanted to have an abortion.

Common Sense lost the will to live as the churches became businesses; and criminals received better treatment than their victims. Common Sense took a beating when you couldn't defend yourself from a burglar in your own home and the burglar could sue you for assault. 

Common Sense finally gave up the will to live, after a woman failed to realize that a steaming cup of coffee was hot. She spilled a little in her lap, and was promptly awarded a huge settlement. 

Common Sense was preceded in death, by his parents, Truth and Trust, by his wife Discretion, his daughter Responsibility, and his son, Reason.

He is survived by his 4 stepbrothers; I Know My Rights,I Want It Now,Someone Else Is To Blame,I'm A Victim.Not many attended his funeral because so few realized he was gone.'

AFTERS: 

My comment to the post was ' common sense, though dead is living still in our hearts'. I found the whole piece funny at first bur i could not help thinking around it.

Common sense is really not as common as it sounds. It has since become lost to a lot of individuals for a long time and they hide under the fad ' it's hot to do this'; when they do silly things. A lot of misdemeanours by adults are bad examples to children whom they are trying to raise.

With this computer and Internet generation, friends and family are mostly not visited physically, but believe me, when I tell you that you will always need them for psychological support and adjustment. it will be very difficult at those times when they are needed, if the bond is not well established. Common sense tells you that it's the right thing to do, but you will rather Tweet them, blackberry Message them, or send birthday greetings on Facebook, first thing in the morning.

Worthwhile relationships inspire happiness and that is the ultimate goal of every human being; to be happy. Its common sense to disengage from or avoid relationships that you don't enjoy. You don't have to search for or create excuses to hang on to a dead relationship. Pride comes before a downfall, they say; it is not wise to be proud to use common laws of existence for survival just because they are common. 

Common sense is used as a  problem solving strategy or avoidance strategy, just as the case may require.

For instance, living within your means and not out-spending your income is only common sense that has worked for years, but the credit card system came and dealt a mighty blow on it. I have never seen any system that accelerate bankruptcy as this credit card system.

Common sense may seem common but it has worked from the time of Adam to date. It has proved reliable and simple to apply. 

It is advised that people use it more commonly.

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RAPE OF THE INNOCENT

BACKGROUND
I read an article on  Linda Ikeji's blog,about the pathetic story of a young domestic servant, and it got me thinking. The story was earlier featured in Vanguard Newspaper in Nigeria but i missed reading it there.The girl i saw in the photo is a nine years old, named Favour. There were conspicuous marks of canes all over her body. Injuries inflicted on an obviously hungry Favour, by her madam, one Alhaja Amina Ukegbu also include blood-shot eyes for eating gala without permission .

The kind of beating and assault meted out to young Favour can't not be administered on any of Alhaja's children while she still lives, i believe.

Having a house help is like adopting a child without so much of legality attached. Like the fostering system from the old times, where women in their child bearing ages especially take up children of other relations to live with them. They bring them up like their own and in return those adoptees help run errands for whom ever adopted them. There have been stories of many who don't even know their biological mothers as their mother, because there was no reason to regret living with whoever it was they were living with.

This Alhaja Amina was so inhuman to favour to the extent that she could not provide proper shelter for her and this exposed her to being raped over and over by two adults Aboy and Japan, in the neighbourhood. According to the girl, they raped on a daily basis.

 My Take:
1. Favour is a victim of a broken home. She has three other siblings and if care is not taken, they could become victims too, of rape or some other social vices.

2. Favour is a victim of child abuse in the sense that she is being asked to earn her own living by working for Alhaja even before she could take decisions by herself. In the course of her work, her left finger has been cut off, and she has burns on her hands.

3.She as a child has not been given any protection whatsoever, thereby exposing her to child molesters. She slept on the balcony every night.

4. she has suffered neglect from her aunt Chioma who gave her out to Alhaja to engage in child labour, because she does not visit her frequently. apart from this, she was not observant enough to see if there were physical or psychological changes in the girl whenever she  eventually visit. in addition, neglect from Alhaja who felt comfortable travelling out of the country, leaving a nine year old alone to her own whim and caprice. Notable and fairly commendable was the fact that it was Favours father who noticed the cane scars and raised alarm

5. she was constantly bullied by her two rapists with a threat to deal with her if she told anyone. not only was she threatened by those men but also by Alhaja who was supposed to be her guardian. she lied constantly to cover up the misdemeanour of Alhaja and her rapists.

6.She was never enrolled in any school. In this day and age it is very callous for anybody particularly in the city to keep any child from education.

Thankfully, a Non Governmental Organisation, Rhode Haven has since taken the case up. I hope the psychological and physical wounds Favour has being inflicted with heal fast, because she went through a very traumatic and dehumanising experience.
It is indeed a rape of the poor girl both physically and psychologically.